How do we overcome insecurity & find fulfillment for our deepest needs?
Insecurity and fear is something we've all had to battle with. Perhaps as a child, we feared being alone in the dark, imagining scary monsters around every dark corner! As the years passed by these scary monsters took different names, like failure, rejection or betrayal.
God created human beings with many needs. From what I've observed, these needs unmet, result in insecurity and fear. For example, consider our basic need for food. Unmet, it results in fear of hunger and starvation. Whilst in our western countries we may never feel this, it is very real to many living in poorer places. Our need for love and acceptance causes us to fear rejection and betrayal.
Ironically, we also have a need to be needed, to be wanted or desired by someone. What I mean is, when people want you to be around; when they want to include you in their activities; when they appreciate your skills, and depend on you to get jobs done, it fulfils a deep God-given need. Otherwise we feel useless, unwanted, lonely.
We have many other needs, the need for inner-peace, contentment, the need for companionship. We need hope, a vision, a purpose. Well, I could go on and on trying to think about all our needs, but let's get right to the point.
If all the needs of the human soul are met, we will indeed be free from fear and worry. We would have absolute security and stablity. We would be the happiest people on earth! How can this happen? Who can satisfy the longings of our soul?
"...the desire of all nations shall come: and I will fill this house with glory, saith the LORD of hosts." - Haggai 2:7
In that man of all men, in Him who is the desire of all nations, our deepest needs find their perfect fulfilment. Jesus alone understands how to satisfy the needs of mankind. Not only is he man, and can understand how we feel, but He is the all-wise creator. It was His hands that formed the human mind. Jesus knows no failure. He will never reject or betray his followers. He showed us the greatest love imaginable, placing a value on us that cannot be comprehended. He promises to be our closest companion, to fill us with peace that passes understanding, to be our hope, giving us the greatest vision for this life, and the eternal life to come.
When our soul is perfectly surrendered to Christ, and the presence of the holy one is abiding with us, then and only then can we find complete freedom from fear, worry and guilt. As the deepest longings of our soul are satisfied, we find perfect contentment in every situation. We realise that the safest place to be is in the presence of God, no matter where we are!
My question then is. Why are so many of us, desperately trying to find outside of Christ, that which can only be found in Him? Young people in particular. Let me explain.
Just like a venus fly trap lures an insect by the promising scent of nectar, so Satan claims to 'satisfy' our every need. Through money, houses, friends, computer games, movies, food, immorality, multimedia, Facebook, flattery, inappropriate girlfriend/boyfriend relationships, etc. he promises instant gratification for our every desire. Yet, as we have all experienced, we are only left feeling more fearful, empty, alone and unfulfilled than ever before.
The problems begin when we depend on people to meet our needs. But more on that in the next Bible gem.
There is only one way to real security and freedom from fear. That way is in Christ. I can personally testify to the truth of this quote:
"I needed help, and I found it in Jesus. Every want was supplied, the hunger of my soul was satisfied; the Bible is to me the revelation of Christ. I believe in Jesus because He is to me a divine Saviour. I believe the Bible because I have found it to be the voice of God to my soul." - The Ministry of Healing 461, Ellen G. White
I hope, dear reader, that you are thinking. Stay tuned for the next gem, as we dig deeper into this subject.
"Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart." - Psalms 37:4